Introduction
Did you know? 64.6% of couples experience pain during sex but do not tell their partner. This symptom occurs in both men and women. This pain causes a decrease in vaginal lubrication. The genitals rub together until it causes injury to both the younger and younger women after lovemaking. Sometimes, it may even be necessary to stop halfway because the pain cannot be tolerated. Many symptoms can disappear within a few minutes, but many people take several hours, some even several days, before the pain is gone.
This is the reason why 1 in 4 couples are not happy with sex, causing them to not want to have sex the next time. If left unresolved, it will result in relationship problems such as stress, feeling unable to give happiness to the other person, lack of self-confidence that affects physical health. The impact is not only that, from the study found that couples with these problems, when they get older, they are at risk of physical and mental illnesses. The study indicated that they are 2.79 times more likely to have high blood pressure and 2.48 times more likely to have coronary artery disease.
list of contents
- Introduction
- Sex is not just a temporary activity.
- What does good quality sex look like?
- The quality of sex also indicates long-term health.
- summarize
Having improper sex can affect each party's health and relationship.
The most common problem that couples encounter is pain during sex, which has many causes, including emotions, insufficient foreplay, stress, fatigue, or even the positions used for sex. These causes cause unpreparedness for sex and are an important factor in causing pain during sex or causing one partner to not reach climax, causing the activity to be stopped abruptly. Therefore, having sex should take other factors into account in order to have a positive effect on the relationship and physical health in the long run.
What does good sex look like?
If talking about good quality, everyone probably thinks of being able to do it for a long time, reaching climax as slowly as possible, right? But that's not right. Studies have found that the quality of intercourse will be between 7-13 minutes (the time from penetration to climax, not including the time for foreplay, stimulating emotions, which will take a total of 20-60 minutes). It is a period of time that is not too long and not too fast, making couples the most satisfied with intercourse. Lubrication is still sufficient for reaching climax.
Most of the problems found are found in women.
It means not reaching climax from a position that does not stimulate the sensitive spot. When it goes on for too long, the vagina becomes dry and starts to feel sore, leading to a lack of confidence in one's own body, which is the source of accumulated stress. The problem of insufficient stimulation of the sensitive spot (G Spot) is caused by couples not considering appropriate positions for intercourse, resulting in stimulation not reaching climax and possibly causing pain during intercourse.
“Position” is another factor that is very important for having sex. It will help reduce fatigue during sex, help delay premature ejaculation, promote novelty in the activity, and increase the ability to contract the vagina. Therefore, you should not neglect the arrangement of the activity position to be appropriate and suitable.
The quality of sex has many long-term health implications.
1. Sleep Health Having sex helps release endorphins, which are substances of happiness when reaching climax. This results in immediate and more continuous sleep, without waking up during the night. In addition, waking up in the morning feeling happier, refreshed, and having more fun in life.
2. Helps reduce pain (Pain tolerance) in women. It was found that after having sex to the point of climax, the pain level was reduced by 74.6%, causing an immediate reduction in pain sensation due to the release of the hormone of happiness (dopamine) including the hormone of love (oxytocin) which inhibits the part that receives pain sensation, resulting in reduced pain.
3. Reduce the risk of cardiovascular disease in the elderly group with a history of good sexual quality. It was found that when older, the risk of cardiovascular disease was only 0.44.
4. Helps stimulate thinking and memory (Cognitive function). Studies have found that when aged 60-74 years, the group with a history of good sexual quality had good thinking and memory.
5. Helps take care of mental health. Having good sex will affect both male and female hormones, including testosterone, which is another hormone that is important in preventing depression.
6. Enhance self-esteem. Good quality sexual activity increases self-confidence and reduces anxiety about having sex in the future.
summarize
Talking, understanding, adjusting and preparing for activities, including foreplay, creating an atmosphere, and arranging good positions, results in smooth and happy intercourse for both parties. This is beneficial to the health and relationship in the short and long term of couples.
refer
-
Liu, Hui, et al. "Is sex good for your health? A national study on partnered sexuality and cardiovascular risk among older men and women." Journal of health and social behavior 57.3 (2016): 276-296.
-
Geuens, Sam, Ana Polona Mivšek, and Woet Gianotten. Midwifery and Sexuality. Springer Nature, 2023.
-
Herbenick, Debby, et al. "Pain experienced during vaginal and anal intercourse with other‐sex partners: Findings from a nationally representative probability study in the United States." The journal of sexual medicine 12.4 (2015): 1040-1051.
-
Shen, Shannon, and Hui Liu. "Is sex good for your brain? A national longitudinal study on sexuality and cognitive function among older adults in the united states." The Journal of Sex Research 60.9 (2023): 1345-1355.
-
Park, Yoobin, et al. "Better sleep, lower blood pressure, and less stress following sex: Findings from a large-scale ecological momentary assessment study." Health Psychology (2024).
-
Dilixiati, Diliyaer, et al. "Association between cardiovascular disease and risk of female sexual dysfunction: a systematic review and meta-analysis." European Journal of Preventive Cardiology (2024): zwae042.
-
Georgiadis, Janniko R., and Gert Holstege. "Human brain activation during sexual stimulation of the penis." Journal of Comparative Neurology 493.1 (2005): 33-38.
